Her eyes gave away what she was trying so desperately to hide. Biting her lips hard, holding back what was visibly a barrage of emotions, she sat there squeezing her bag and tensing her shoulders. She was trying hard to put up a strong front. There might have been a cheating husband, a marriage gone bad, a difficult child or a lost love behind this turmoil. Whatever it was, it was the kind that hurt hard and the kind that you couldn't just get over or get rid of overnight.
As she looked up and down, straight at me and then away again, she knew I could see right through her. She knew I could tell, despite her continuous effort to conceal.
She began to purse her lips and bite them in alternation. Her eyes were craving rest and her mind was craving peace. She knew she had to find these herself as they were not going to find her.
There's always an anxiety that comes over you when you realize how visible your pain is and when you can see it through the eyes of another. You feel weak, vulnerable and at some level quite pathetic and this leads to a mounting and unsettling anxiety. Her eyes began to glaze and I could tell she couldn't hold up much longer. I could tell she really needed someone to talk to. She got up at this point to get off at her stop. She looked at me one last time, almost defiantly and then walked out. It was then that it occured to me that she reminded me of someone from not too long ago. As I remembered and looked back, I was taken over by that same unsettling anxiety.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Thoughts and sentiments...
A dear friend once said, 'anyone can love anyone else in this world, it all depends on the time, circumstances and how much they want it'. Two people can go from hating each other to loving each other very quickly and sometimes it's hard to explain why. But how would you explain staying in love with someone forever. Some people just touch our lives in ways that cannot be replaced by others, despite being presented the same circumstances or seemingly the right time.
Relationships are complicated and this is what makes them fundamentally challenging. Some of us shy away from complication for reasons we cannot explain to ourselves, let alone others. Some others have become so intensely occupied with the efforts of self preservation that they have forgotten how to be sensitive to other people. And some of us strangely battle an external acceptance of change and of life's constancy to surprise whilst internally we hold on to the ideals of selfless love where you do anything for the ones you love and will give anything just to see them again. There is so much in life to scale and achieve and each of us creates our own path of adventure as we go along. But sometimes it's important to just stop and take a long hard look at what we really want. Sometimes it's important to make a little more effort to let the people we love know just how much we actually adore them.
Relationships are complicated and this is what makes them fundamentally challenging. Some of us shy away from complication for reasons we cannot explain to ourselves, let alone others. Some others have become so intensely occupied with the efforts of self preservation that they have forgotten how to be sensitive to other people. And some of us strangely battle an external acceptance of change and of life's constancy to surprise whilst internally we hold on to the ideals of selfless love where you do anything for the ones you love and will give anything just to see them again. There is so much in life to scale and achieve and each of us creates our own path of adventure as we go along. But sometimes it's important to just stop and take a long hard look at what we really want. Sometimes it's important to make a little more effort to let the people we love know just how much we actually adore them.
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Saying goodbye...
He came home that evening, pensive and strangely anxious. The family did not make much of it, but she knew. She knew it was going to happen soon. She was living with them ever since her parents moved away. Her father had been transfered on work and she had another year of college to go. He'd rather she stay at their place, his best friend's house, than shack up in some hostel. So her home for the past six months and the rest of the year would be this one, where she met him, the love of her life. Suddenly coming home to do school work was more exciting than ever. She hung out less with her friends at university and spent more time watching evening television with the family and of course, him. But there was always fear. At the back of her mind she knew they would call one day and he'd have to go. He would have to answer to his country and do the right thing. He knew that too and the one thing he dreaded most was telling her.
That night, after dinner, he asked to sit down with everyone, his parents, two sisters and her. He broke the news to them and held back as each of them expressed their shock and anger that he hadn't mentioned it when he first knew which was a week ago. He had to report the next day at noon and was telling them tonight. In his defence he said that he just couldn't deal with prolonging goodbyes and mounting anxiety. So he had decided to give them very short notice.
She was upset, but knew him too well to expect anything else. If anything, she knew that telling her was the hardest thing for him. So she said goodbye to him like everyone else did and went to bed as usual with his sisters, who she was sharing a room with.
That night, after everyone was asleep, she did something she had never done before. She snuck into his room as quietly as possible. At first, she just stood there for a while and watched him asleep. Then she slowly went near him and stroked her hand lovingly across his cherubic face. He always looked like a baby when he was asleep. He stirred immediately and looked up at her both sad and pleasantly surprised. As she began to speak, he pulled her closer to him and silenced her with a kiss. She got into the blaket with him and they hugged each other so tight, she began to cry. Desperately as she cried that night, she wished she could die right there in his arms, or never have to let him go.
That night, after dinner, he asked to sit down with everyone, his parents, two sisters and her. He broke the news to them and held back as each of them expressed their shock and anger that he hadn't mentioned it when he first knew which was a week ago. He had to report the next day at noon and was telling them tonight. In his defence he said that he just couldn't deal with prolonging goodbyes and mounting anxiety. So he had decided to give them very short notice.
She was upset, but knew him too well to expect anything else. If anything, she knew that telling her was the hardest thing for him. So she said goodbye to him like everyone else did and went to bed as usual with his sisters, who she was sharing a room with.
That night, after everyone was asleep, she did something she had never done before. She snuck into his room as quietly as possible. At first, she just stood there for a while and watched him asleep. Then she slowly went near him and stroked her hand lovingly across his cherubic face. He always looked like a baby when he was asleep. He stirred immediately and looked up at her both sad and pleasantly surprised. As she began to speak, he pulled her closer to him and silenced her with a kiss. She got into the blaket with him and they hugged each other so tight, she began to cry. Desperately as she cried that night, she wished she could die right there in his arms, or never have to let him go.
Saturday, May 31, 2008
Strange people...strange ways.
He was temperamental, strangely fussy and barely easy if ever. She was patient, understanding and efficient. Theirs was an unusual association. She knew at the end of the day that he means well and he knew at some level that she understood that. Often she discounted his raving and ranting on account of him being older and more experienced. She was always able to see beyond his eccentric exterior and she knew that inside he was just a perfectionist waiting for his perfect world. They had their moments of elation when things went well and when things were more stressful than ever, they pulled together and brought everyone else around as well. More often than not they saw eye to eye on situations and events that really mattered and together they made a great team.
Then one day, she had to leave. She said to him that this was what she had to do, that she had given it a great amount of thought and it was a hard decision for her to make. She explained that it was the right thing for her to do as she had to move on in life. His face fell. Suddenly he seemed twenty years younger. He refused to see why she had to go and was surprised that she was leaving earlier than expected. He behaved like he was being deceived. She was taken aback by his denial of things and his near childish reaction to the situation. She knew he would not be as understanding as the others, but this she didn’t expect.
She was all set to leave. She spent the last day making sure that the wheels were well oiled before she left. Friends shared lighter moments remembering old times whilst wishing her well and hugging her every five minutes. He left unusually early that day without saying goodbye. When she realized he was gone, it was too late. She was hoping he’d at least say goodbye and good luck. She certainly didn’t expect him to be gushing with emotion but this disappearance was totally uncalled for. She expected him to be more mature about the situation. Once again knowing him for what he is, she sent him a text later to say goodbye and how much she would miss everyone. There was no reply. She was appalled by his complete denial of things. She realized though that this was his loss and not hers. She had to move on and she did.
Then one day, she had to leave. She said to him that this was what she had to do, that she had given it a great amount of thought and it was a hard decision for her to make. She explained that it was the right thing for her to do as she had to move on in life. His face fell. Suddenly he seemed twenty years younger. He refused to see why she had to go and was surprised that she was leaving earlier than expected. He behaved like he was being deceived. She was taken aback by his denial of things and his near childish reaction to the situation. She knew he would not be as understanding as the others, but this she didn’t expect.
She was all set to leave. She spent the last day making sure that the wheels were well oiled before she left. Friends shared lighter moments remembering old times whilst wishing her well and hugging her every five minutes. He left unusually early that day without saying goodbye. When she realized he was gone, it was too late. She was hoping he’d at least say goodbye and good luck. She certainly didn’t expect him to be gushing with emotion but this disappearance was totally uncalled for. She expected him to be more mature about the situation. Once again knowing him for what he is, she sent him a text later to say goodbye and how much she would miss everyone. There was no reply. She was appalled by his complete denial of things. She realized though that this was his loss and not hers. She had to move on and she did.
Wednesday, May 7, 2008
The last ride...
He woke up that morning eager, excited and happy. It was a Sunday. It was his day to do exactly what he wanted and with whom he wanted. He decided to take his new bike out on a longer ride than usual. Out of the city to a nearby resort town to catch up with a few fun friends and lots of interesting conversation. This was the order of the day. Soon, he was on the main link highway going out of the city. His friends had gone ahead of him, two days ago. So on this ride he was all by himself. He quite enjoyed this though, with the wind on his face and cool drops of an impending shower making this journey a lot more romantic. After a week of long hours and stressful chaos, this was exhilerating. He was listening to Maroon 5, to the song his girlfriend used to like. He smiled just thinking of her and remembering some of the great times they'd had together. He was just 6 miles away from the first checkpoint when it happened. There was a sudden turn of scenery. Skin and muscle were ravaged between metal weight and concrete. The last thing he remembered was letting out a desperate screeching cry. He didn't make it past that checkpoint that morning. And he didn't make it to the resort that day....
It was 8 a.m. the next morning. An unforgiving Monday morning, as usual, where getting out of bed feels like you're being sent to the gallows. She was in the shower when she heard a message received on her cell phone. Drying herself a few minutes later, she came to her phone to check the message. They said he was gone. At 25, he was gone, a bike accident on a Sunday morning. He was deeply mourned, they said. She could not believe what she had just read. Her legs felt weak and she had to sit down. He was always this gentle, helpful, smart and happy boy. She had worked with him on numerous occasions. He was loved by his team mates and doted on by his family. And to her, he was always the pleasant face she loved to see. Surely and strongly, it hit her again, the transience and futility of it all. As she sat there contemplating and trying to digest the news that Monday morning, it was time to get ready for work. It was another seemingly normal day with people to meet and things to be done. Life had to go on, as it always does.
It was 8 a.m. the next morning. An unforgiving Monday morning, as usual, where getting out of bed feels like you're being sent to the gallows. She was in the shower when she heard a message received on her cell phone. Drying herself a few minutes later, she came to her phone to check the message. They said he was gone. At 25, he was gone, a bike accident on a Sunday morning. He was deeply mourned, they said. She could not believe what she had just read. Her legs felt weak and she had to sit down. He was always this gentle, helpful, smart and happy boy. She had worked with him on numerous occasions. He was loved by his team mates and doted on by his family. And to her, he was always the pleasant face she loved to see. Surely and strongly, it hit her again, the transience and futility of it all. As she sat there contemplating and trying to digest the news that Monday morning, it was time to get ready for work. It was another seemingly normal day with people to meet and things to be done. Life had to go on, as it always does.
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Washed away...
It had been a long and tiring day, not very different from a lot of other days in the past few months. She walked through the usual route, probably crossing paths with the usual people that she saw every other day. Mothers with their young children in tow, eighteen year olds with other eighteen year olds, old men returning from their day's work and even older women taking their late evening strolls while their younger family members walk ahead of them.
She gazed up at the sky to check for the moon. It was probably the romantic idealist in her that made her look up every once in a while. It was there, nearly round, bright and getting brighter as the sky was turning darker. A gentle smile spread across her face whenever she saw that white circle of borrowed light in the sky.
She got home and sat down in the couch for a while, just catching her breath as she slowly sipped on a glass of orange juice. She was still thinking of the same thing, the same thing she thought of every day. The same thing that was at the back of her mind, no matter what she did or where she went. She decided that a shower would be a good idea, to kill the day's stress and hopefully buy her mind some peace. She took her clothes off hastily, went in and turned on the shower. The water was strong, warm and steady. She turned around to let the warm stream caress the nape of her neck. It was exactly how she always liked it. And then suddenly, all at once, it came from within. As the water smothered her from behind, a warm stream came gushing out of her tired eyes. She couldn't stop and she worried that she may never be able to completely let go. Her heart was wanting what strangely time had decided she could not have. She was battling what she knew at some level to be inevitable and yet, it was a battle she wanted to win. There was however, a strange sense of comfort as she was engulfed by the warmth. The water came down, consistently strong and steady and did well to conceal her tearful sorrow. As the water washed her tears away, she hoped that her pain could be washed away just as quickly.
She gazed up at the sky to check for the moon. It was probably the romantic idealist in her that made her look up every once in a while. It was there, nearly round, bright and getting brighter as the sky was turning darker. A gentle smile spread across her face whenever she saw that white circle of borrowed light in the sky.
She got home and sat down in the couch for a while, just catching her breath as she slowly sipped on a glass of orange juice. She was still thinking of the same thing, the same thing she thought of every day. The same thing that was at the back of her mind, no matter what she did or where she went. She decided that a shower would be a good idea, to kill the day's stress and hopefully buy her mind some peace. She took her clothes off hastily, went in and turned on the shower. The water was strong, warm and steady. She turned around to let the warm stream caress the nape of her neck. It was exactly how she always liked it. And then suddenly, all at once, it came from within. As the water smothered her from behind, a warm stream came gushing out of her tired eyes. She couldn't stop and she worried that she may never be able to completely let go. Her heart was wanting what strangely time had decided she could not have. She was battling what she knew at some level to be inevitable and yet, it was a battle she wanted to win. There was however, a strange sense of comfort as she was engulfed by the warmth. The water came down, consistently strong and steady and did well to conceal her tearful sorrow. As the water washed her tears away, she hoped that her pain could be washed away just as quickly.
Monday, January 28, 2008
If only they understood...
He looked at them quietly, listening to them from behind the trees. These were two of the most wonderful people he knew, both generous, loving, funny and adorable. Yet to each other they showed none of those virtues. He always wondered what changed between them. How did they come to hate each other so much.
The conversation that morning was about who gets to keep the bedroom furniture. Suddenly objects had become objects again. Everything that meant anything at all was desecrated and torn to shreds. All that was left was a fierce need to take possession of the inanimate. And each was desperately trying to do so. They were so consumed by frustration and hatred that they completely forgot he was standing right there, listening to every word. And this was not the first time.
It began eight months ago, the yelling, the bickering and the frequent display of contempt and rage. At first he tried to stop at least one of them. Eventually he realized that they were equally stubborn and that neither person would ever listen to reason. He cried himself to sleep on many nights, when neither came down to tuck him into bed, since they were so busy fighting.
But he still loved them both so very much. Why should he have to choose between two people who loved him so dearly. Although he knew in his heart that they adored him, their lack of showing this affection worried him immensely. His greatest fear had become the fact that they would hate him as much as they hate each other.
At this point they started arguing about who gets to keep him and who can take better care of him. He was on the table now, just like the wardrobe, the bed and the refridgerator. He was being commoditized and they were haggling over him. He couldn't stand there and listen any longer, so he ran up to her and held her hand, tugging at it. In a quick sweep she drew him close, as if to say he now belonged to her and her only. She quickly decided to push the haggling to another day and whisked him away as she began walking. After they walked a considerable distance from the trees and came near the bridge, she decided he needed to be treated to an ice cream. Another commodity to make up for commoditising him. If only ice creams could take care of everything...sigh!
The conversation that morning was about who gets to keep the bedroom furniture. Suddenly objects had become objects again. Everything that meant anything at all was desecrated and torn to shreds. All that was left was a fierce need to take possession of the inanimate. And each was desperately trying to do so. They were so consumed by frustration and hatred that they completely forgot he was standing right there, listening to every word. And this was not the first time.
It began eight months ago, the yelling, the bickering and the frequent display of contempt and rage. At first he tried to stop at least one of them. Eventually he realized that they were equally stubborn and that neither person would ever listen to reason. He cried himself to sleep on many nights, when neither came down to tuck him into bed, since they were so busy fighting.
But he still loved them both so very much. Why should he have to choose between two people who loved him so dearly. Although he knew in his heart that they adored him, their lack of showing this affection worried him immensely. His greatest fear had become the fact that they would hate him as much as they hate each other.
At this point they started arguing about who gets to keep him and who can take better care of him. He was on the table now, just like the wardrobe, the bed and the refridgerator. He was being commoditized and they were haggling over him. He couldn't stand there and listen any longer, so he ran up to her and held her hand, tugging at it. In a quick sweep she drew him close, as if to say he now belonged to her and her only. She quickly decided to push the haggling to another day and whisked him away as she began walking. After they walked a considerable distance from the trees and came near the bridge, she decided he needed to be treated to an ice cream. Another commodity to make up for commoditising him. If only ice creams could take care of everything...sigh!
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